So why don't you and I have a go now?
And, I'm going out on a limb here, I believe for many decisions, the kind we might bring to a coaching conversation, there isn't necessarily a "right" decision and a "wrong" one. The world constantly changes, as do you, along with your thoughts, dreams and desires. What was "right" for you yesterday might not be "right" today.
I'm not saying I've never done anything I later decided had been the result of a bad decision, but some of the decisions that took me to challenging places provided such rich opportunities to learn about myself that I wouldn't give up the outcome now, even if I could.
Here is an exercise you can do on your own to help you explore what's important to you, which might help you towards more confident decision making.
Think of someone you really admire, maybe a friend, family member, colleague or partner. What are the qualities they possess that makes them so admirable?
Write these on the piece of paper.
...and now think of some more. And write them down.
..and a few more.
There's no right answer here so try not to censor or even think much about what you're writing as you jot these down.
Now think of someone else you really admire. What's great about them?
Write all those qualities down, a few will spring to mind immediately, but take your time to sit and think of the less obvious things too.
After about ten minutes, you will have a sheet of paper filled with qualities. These will give you an idea of the values that are important to you right now.
Underline the two or three qualities or values that feel particularly important to you today. What do you notice about them?
Which is the no.1 quality on that page for you right now?
Now take time to write answers to the following:
- What would life look like if I were living that value 100%?
- How would I be spending my time?
- Who would I be hanging out with? What would i be able to achieve?
- What is this value telling me about my options in my current situation?
Do have a go at this and let me know how you get on.
Today I'm channelling stepping back into the big picture and reflecting on what's really important to me. What's really important to you?
Written with love
To read the original blog about overcoming feeling stuck, scroll down, it's called 'to bask in the sun or dance in puddles'
Feeling stuck comes up a lot in coaching work, and there are many ways to explore to help you move forward, far too many for this blog post. If you'd like to find out more about what you can get from working with a coach, email me at firstname.lastname@example.org and if I'm not the coach for you, I have a network of talented associates i can put you in touch with.
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